One thing I am finding as I deal with my mother-in-law's death is that I have a very hard time sitting still when upset. I have scrubbed the mildew off of the shower ceiling, dusted the fins of the ceiling fan, vacuumed the baseboards, and washed every piece of laundry I can find.
I have also been knitting. I am working on a lace shawl, a bulky weight tunic that I started two years ago and put aside, and a sock weight cowl. I seem to find the mindless repetition of knitting soothing. This mourning may actually be a productive time. I am obsessively downloading patterns from the internet, planning all the possible projects to come. Unfortunately, I should be focusing on Batboy: The Musical for which I am designing the costumes. I know what I want it to look like but I am having a devil of a time concentrating on drawing the designs.
I have to find a project for some lovely hand dyed banana/silk yarn in a turquoise,blue and brown colour pathway. I had started a shell for my mother-in-law...sigh.
Monday, February 15, 2010
Expect the unexpected
The lack of posts is due to a bit of soul - icing news. My dear mother-in-law, Betsy Kahl, passed away last weekend. It was completely unexpected - she was reading in bed and apparently just fell back and her neighbors found her after a day and a half. This was during the first big snowstorm in Feb.in the mid-Atlantic, and after having seen her once Saturday afternoon, no one saw her for a day and she did not answer her calls. This would not have been so odd if there had not been 3 feet of now on the ground.
We are all still coming to grips with this great loss. I keep thinking about little things I will miss - sitting around the breakfast table with all the adults reading different sections of the paper, or talking far into the night about theatre, politics or other things - rarely gossip or small things. She was very well read - as a matter of fact, she was reading the copy of Eat, Pray, Love we'd given her for Christmas when she passed away.
I was very lucky to have had her in my life for over twenty years. I have heard so many women talk about the neutral or negative relationships they have with their mothers-in-law. I was blessed not only to have gotten along with my mother-in-law, but to have her as a close friend. I will miss her dearly.
Thanks to everyone who has been so considerate and helpful during this time of sadness. Every prayer and kind word means a great deal to us.
Treasure your loved ones and don't forget to call your mother.
We are all still coming to grips with this great loss. I keep thinking about little things I will miss - sitting around the breakfast table with all the adults reading different sections of the paper, or talking far into the night about theatre, politics or other things - rarely gossip or small things. She was very well read - as a matter of fact, she was reading the copy of Eat, Pray, Love we'd given her for Christmas when she passed away.
I was very lucky to have had her in my life for over twenty years. I have heard so many women talk about the neutral or negative relationships they have with their mothers-in-law. I was blessed not only to have gotten along with my mother-in-law, but to have her as a close friend. I will miss her dearly.
Thanks to everyone who has been so considerate and helpful during this time of sadness. Every prayer and kind word means a great deal to us.
Treasure your loved ones and don't forget to call your mother.
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